13 Signs That Your High School Relationship is Too Serious….and 10 Things to do About it

  1.  That special someone expects you be with them whenever they are around
  2. Others expect you to always be together whenever you are around each other.
  3. You won’t attend youth activities unless you know they will be there or unless you’ve checked with them first (to see if you’ll be there or if the activity is cool enough to attend).
  4.  It would depress or devastate you if you weren’t together at an activity.
  5.  His or her daily happiness depends on you.
  6. You get instantly jealous if he/she talks to others another guy/girl.
  7. You get mad at your friends if they talk to him/her while you are currently mad at him/her.
  8. You get mad if he/she gets any counsel about your relationship.
  9. You get hurt or mad if he/she doesn’t come and talk to you without your asking him/her to.
  10. You would be devastated if someone who had your best interests at heart (a pastor, youth pastor, parent, etc.) would tell you that you should break up.
  11.  If someone stuck their hand between the locked eyes of your sappy stare at each other, their hand would receive an electric shock.
  12. You work at your relationship with them more than you do at your relationship with God.
  13. You run God’s plan for your future through the filter of “what are they going to do” or “what are they going to think,” rather than just following God’s will regardless of their plans.


  1. Develop your own personality. Nothing is less attractive to the opposite sex than a person with no confidence, hobby or personality of their own. If you’re creative, get involved with a writing group or join the band. Get out there and meet people and be able to have something to bring to the conversation.
  2. Pick someone you have something in common with. If you are a honor roll student and member of the key club, but you’re interested in the slacker in the back row, you will have conflicted interests. More importantly, if you are a needy person and you want to date a loner, you will have problems getting to a comfortable intimacy level. Try to find someone that you think you can relate to – socially and mentally.
  3. Don’t think you can change a leopard’s spots. If a girl is known around campus as a cheater or if a guy’s reputation is less than angelic, don’t think that you will be the one to break the mold. Nothing is worse than being the one who ‘shoulda-seen-it-coming’ when a person’s old habits repeat themselves.
  4. Separate your relationship from your school responsibilities. No one wants to be known as the ‘dramatic couple that has epic battles by the soda machines every Tuesday.’ It is really hard to keep up your grades and the respect of your classmates and teachers when you bring your relationship problems to class with you. This will also scare away any other potential partners for the future.
  5.  Include your parents. Until you are 18 and move out of your house, your parents have final say in what you do and don’t do. If you keep agendas hidden from them or refuse to let them meet the person you’re dating, it will be a lot more difficult for you in the long run to have a good relationship on either end.
  6.  Don’t alienate your friends. It is so easy to become so engulfed in a significant other that friends just don’t seem as fulfilling anymore. However, friends keep you sane when your partner is driving you crazy. Also, if something goes wrong, you’ll need your core group of friends to hold you up and be there for you.
  7. Avoid gossip. While you can’t avoid your friends, you can’t include them in every aspect of your relationship. Having middle men and friends that like to interfere (‘help’) only makes problems worse. High schools are full of rumors and drama – don’t get sucked into arguments caused by something a friend of a friend might have seen.
  8. Communication is Key. Whether you’re 15 or 55, keeping open communication with the person you’re dating is absolutely essential. Most of bad break-ups and horrible fights of high school dating could have been avoided if the couple had made an effort to talk to one another about problems instead of jumping to conclusions.
  9.  Don’t push your boundaries, and don’t let anyone else cross them. If you don’t know what the boundaries are in your relationship, establish them before you end up in an uncomfortable situation. Once you know your boundaries, demand that they be respected. Remember – boundaries aren’t just physical. Sometimes the strongest boundaries are mental, or emotional.
  10. Don’t become obsessed. Remember that after high school, life changes dramatically. That’s not to say that you can’t form a lasting relationship at a young age, it just means that you need to be ready for long distance and a whole new set of problems as an adult. Try not to make a relationship your whole world because it will limit your experience in other areas of life.

OF SPECIAL NOTE, TEENAGE DATING VIOLENCE is defined as the physical, sexual, psychological, or emotional violence within a dating relationship, including stalking. It can occur in person or electronically and might occur between a current or former dating partner.  If you are someone you know is experiencing relationship abuse, please check out these resources and get help.  You are not alone.

National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline: 1-866-331-9474



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